“Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.”
I should’ve received that promotion, I should’ve won that race or they should’ve loved me are all examples of unfulfilled expectations. Unfulfilled expectations make us feel robbed of an opportunity. But that opportunity was never ours to own. We build expectations based on our perceptions of how life is supposed to work. Unfortunately, life is not formulaic and it isn’t fair.
Life will throw curve balls at you, sometimes one after the other. Things will happen to you without any rhyme or reason. You’ll be hit so many times you’ll start questioning all the good things in your life and start feeling unworthy or sorry for yourself. Some will even blame it on bad luck. But there’s no such thing as bad luck. It’s all a matter of perception. This article outlines that those who believe in bad luck actually suffer from more accidents.
The danger is, the deeper you believe you are a victim, the more you will drown in your sorrow and self-pity. You will lose your confidence, doubt everything you do and push loved ones away. As a result you’ll feel alienated making the feelings of loneliness only stronger.
Know this—you are not alone.
Everyone is dealing with feelings of rejection, disappointment, jealousy, anger and sadness. We don’t see this because no one is openly sharing these feelings on Facebook or Instagram. Our highly curated online society makes us feel like we are the only ones. Trust me—everyone is dealing with the same struggles!
But there’s hope. You can turn things around by taking a solutions-based approach:
- Stop seeing yourself as a victim
- Stop complaining and take action
- Be grateful for what you do have
- Don’t expect anything from anyone
- Stay humble
- Focus on what is within your control
- Confront the issue(s) and learn: “When you don’t deal with what’s going on, it keeps going on.” Iyanla Vanzant
- Think positive thoughts
Life is meant to be tough. Stop dwelling on the hardship and instead focus on the journey.
“The struggle you’re in today is developing the strength you need for tomorrow.”
– Robert Tew